I discovered a blogger through the podcast Your Social Anxiety Bestie called HonestRox. Episode #27 had an interview with Roxana. I really enjoyed the episode and was sad that I’d missed her 21-day anxiety challenge that took place in April, back when the episode first aired. (I listened to it yesterday.)
That same day was a really low day for me and I’d posted a rainy sky picture on my Instagram page saying that it looked the way I felt. Imagine my surprise when I got a comment from @HonestRox herself!
When I told her about the crazy coincidence she was so super kind and we commented back and forth a bit. She told me she had a 7-Day challenge that is ongoing, so I immediately signed up. Today is the first day.
Today’s challenge is to think of 3 words I would use to describe myself, then ask 3-5 people for one word they would use to describe me and see where there might be a disconnect. I asked my husband, my daughter, and three friends.
- My words– nervous, people pleaser, procrastinator/perfectionist
- Husband– love or heart
- Daughter– kindhearted
- Friend 1– genuine, helpful, kind
- Friend 2– still waiting
- Friend 3– still waiting
With the ones that have actually responded so far, I think that goes along with my people pleaser-ness. I want others to be happy. And I want them to like me. I guess it doesn’t work as well asking people that you’re already friends with, since (in theory) they should like you. I’m trying not to read anything into the fact that two of my three friends haven’t responded yet. One was probably busy with work and the other may have been busy as well.
One thing I wonder, though, is how they would describe me to other people. I mean, of course you would use kind words to describe a person if you’re telling it to them. But if you describe a person to someone that doesn’t know them… What then? Would they still use the same words? Would they use “hot mess” to describe me? Or “overly sensitive” or “nut job” or “paranoid?” And what about people that aren’t close friends? What if they just happen to know me from church or met me once? What would they say? How about someone that only knows me online?
I’m curious about the next 6 days of challenges. I’ll try to update as I do them. That will keep me accountable and doing them. I’ll also update if I ever get a response from either of my other friends (and try not to take it personally if they don’t respond).
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