Tag: perfectionism

Frustration

Mar 13, 2026

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NicoleHerronWrites

in anxiety, author, characters, cognitive distortions, Deadlines, Draft 1, intuitive writing, journaling, people-pleasing, TEP4, time anxiety, writing

Anxiety can’t just tell me I’m disappointing real people. Let’s pile on fictional characters too!
Feeling Buried

Oct 28, 2025

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Niki Herron

in aging, anxiety, cognitive distortions, depression, family, health anxiety, journaling, mental health, mother worry, parenting, people-pleasing, perfectionism, personality, shame, social anxiety

Life has a tendency to just keep life-ing. I can start to feel on top of things, only to be smacked down by the unexpected. Monkey had a very specific idea in their head about what they wanted to be for Halloween (yes, my teen is very much still into dress up). We went to…
A little encouragement

Oct 9, 2025

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NicoleHerronWrites

in anxiety, author, cognitive distortions, defective, depression, Feedback, INFJ, introvert, journaling, mental health, perfectionism, self promotion, shame, social anxiety, subscribers, vulnerability

The tough thing about healing is that it’s not linear. One day you can feel like you could take on the world, and the next day a poorly timed comment can send you back under the covers. But here’s the thing: I know it doesn’t last. Yes, I’m feeling discouraged. Yes, I have days that…
Showcase Recap

Sep 29, 2025

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NicoleHerronWrites

in anxiety, author, cognitive distortions, creativity, Debut, defective, exposure therapy, Growth, journaling, lessons, mental health, people-pleasing, perfectionism, planning, sale, self promotion, social anxiety, triggers, vulnerability, Writer’s Journey, writing, Writing Challenges/Events

Saturday, I shared a table at the Garland public library’s author showcase. I prepped/planned for it for more than a week, ordering goodies at the last minute and even making some of my own. This is what I brought: Even with only one book under my belt, my half of the table was packed with…
Huge Thank You

Sep 16, 2025

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NicoleHerronWrites

in anxiety, author, Book Launch, cognitive distortions, Debut, defective, imposter syndrome, journaling, perfectionism, social anxiety, vulnerability, Writer’s Journey, writing

Words are not enough to convey how grateful I am for all of the support I’ve received upon the release of my book. That’s so weird to say. “My book.” It’s real. Yes, I’ve held it in my hands for several weeks now, but it still didn’t feel real because I was the only person…
Blast off

Sep 13, 2025

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NicoleHerronWrites

in anxiety, author, Book Launch, cognitive distortions, imposter syndrome, journaling, mental health, people-pleasing, perfectionism, social anxiety

It’s launch day and I feel wound tighter than a…tightly wound thing. Yep. That’s as coherent as it gets today, folks! I’m an absolute mess. Apparently all of my critics are coming out to play. Do-it-all Debra – “You must do everything! Be ready for any possibility!” Frowning Frank – “You made a mistake and…
Book Launch and a Chorus of Critics

Aug 11, 2025

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NicoleHerronWrites

in anxiety, author, Book Launch, cognitive distortions, creativity, imposter syndrome, intuition, intuitive writing, journaling, mental health, mindfulness, people-pleasing, perfectionism, social anxiety, vulnerability, Writer’s Journey, writing

It’s set. I am launching my book on September 13th. Two weeks after I come back from Ireland. Am I freaking out? You betcha! But I’m doing my best to quiet down my Council of Critics (more on that in a bit). What started as a seed of an idea that I came up with…
Grilled cheese and anxiety soup

Jul 15, 2025

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Niki Herron

in anxiety, cognitive distortions, exposure therapy, hiding, imposter syndrome, INFJ, introvert, journaling, lessons, mental health, motivation, parenting, people-pleasing, perfectionism, personality, social anxiety, socializing

My husband has friends that are extroverts, so he gets invited to things from time to time. He notified me on Friday that he had been invited to an annual Girled Cheese party (long story on the unique name) for the next day. The idea behind the party is that everyone brings a unique grilled…
How should I launch?

Jul 9, 2025

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NicoleHerronWrites

in anxiety, author, Book Launch, characters, church, cognitive distortions, Cosmic Smash Book, creativity, Faith, hiding, imposter syndrome, journaling, mental health, perfectionism, planning, self promotion, social anxiety, TEP3, triggers, vulnerability, writing

I’ve had a few people ask me when my book will be released and I have given vague answers because I haven’t picked a specific date, so yesterday in the coaching call I asked Sage how I should go about choosing one. Which became much more emotional than I expected. It’s hard enough to think…
Discomfort

Jul 2, 2025

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Niki Herron

in anxiety, author, Beta Readers, blogging, cognitive distortions, exposure therapy, family, friendship, Growth, hiding, imposter syndrome, journaling, lessons, mental health, people-pleasing, perfectionism, personality, shame, social anxiety, social media, TEP3, theatre, triggers, vulnerability

It’s no secret that being seen scares me. I’ve tried my best to be open and honest about it (in as quiet a way as possible) because it makes things a tiny bit easier. When I name my fear, it gives it less power. So that’s what I’m doing today. Naming the fear. Yesterday was…