Category: hiding

Tattoo Lessons

Jan 9, 2026

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NicoleHerronWrites

in anxiety, cognitive distortions, defective, discovery, family, grounding techniques, Growth, health anxiety, hiding, journaling, lessons, mental health, people-pleasing, personality, self-care, social anxiety, surgery

Getting my first tattoo held benefits I hadn’t expected, but I’m so glad to discover.
Author Con

Jul 22, 2025

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NicoleHerronWrites

in anxiety, author, exposure therapy, family, fiction, friendship, hiding, imposter syndrome, INFJ, introvert, intuition, journaling, lessons, mental health, planning, self promotion, social anxiety, social media, socializing, writing

Saturday I attended a local author convention. We have a friend we’ve known for almost thirty years that has been writing books for awhile now and had posted that she would be there. I thought it might be a good idea to get an idea of what it might be like from an author’s perspective.…
Grilled cheese and anxiety soup

Jul 15, 2025

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Niki Herron

in anxiety, cognitive distortions, exposure therapy, hiding, imposter syndrome, INFJ, introvert, journaling, lessons, mental health, motivation, parenting, people-pleasing, perfectionism, personality, social anxiety, socializing

My husband has friends that are extroverts, so he gets invited to things from time to time. He notified me on Friday that he had been invited to an annual Girled Cheese party (long story on the unique name) for the next day. The idea behind the party is that everyone brings a unique grilled…
How should I launch?

Jul 9, 2025

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NicoleHerronWrites

in anxiety, author, Book Launch, characters, church, cognitive distortions, Cosmic Smash Book, creativity, Faith, hiding, imposter syndrome, journaling, mental health, perfectionism, planning, self promotion, social anxiety, TEP3, triggers, vulnerability, writing

I’ve had a few people ask me when my book will be released and I have given vague answers because I haven’t picked a specific date, so yesterday in the coaching call I asked Sage how I should go about choosing one. Which became much more emotional than I expected. It’s hard enough to think…
Discomfort

Jul 2, 2025

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Niki Herron

in anxiety, author, Beta Readers, blogging, cognitive distortions, exposure therapy, family, friendship, Growth, hiding, imposter syndrome, journaling, lessons, mental health, people-pleasing, perfectionism, personality, shame, social anxiety, social media, TEP3, theatre, triggers, vulnerability

It’s no secret that being seen scares me. I’ve tried my best to be open and honest about it (in as quiet a way as possible) because it makes things a tiny bit easier. When I name my fear, it gives it less power. So that’s what I’m doing today. Naming the fear. Yesterday was…
Introvert Adoption

Jun 14, 2025

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Niki Herron

in anxiety, exposure therapy, extrovert, family, friendship, grounding techniques, hiding, INFJ, introvert, journaling, musings, parenting, personality, social anxiety, socializing

Have you ever heard people talk about introverts being “adopted” by extroverts? While it sounds somewhat condescending and judgmental, it’s kind of true. Last week Squirrel and Monkey traveled with their theatre group to a theatre conference. Interestingly, in a room of five theatre kids, only one was an extravert. Seems odd, considering they are…
Summer 2025 begins

May 27, 2025

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Niki Herron

in anxiety, author, Beta Readers, cognitive distortions, Cosmic Smash Book, Feedback, fiction, grounding techniques, hiding, imposter syndrome, journaling, mental health, people-pleasing, perfectionism, routine, shame, social anxiety, TEP3, triggers, vulnerability, writing

I’m doing better about asking for help and not adjusting my own schedule to accommodate others. Monkey has band T/W/Th this week until noon. I asked my mother-in-law to handle pick up so that I can be at my office working. This is progress, believe it or not! I managed to get the first three…
Feedback + Anxiety

May 14, 2025

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NicoleHerronWrites

in anxiety, author, Beta Readers, cognitive distortions, Feedback, fiction, hiding, imposter syndrome, journaling, mental health, people-pleasing, perfectionism, planning, social anxiety, TEP3, triggers, vulnerability, Writer’s Journey, writing

I thought I was better prepared for receiving feedback from my beta readers than I was in 2021 when I had written my first novel (that never got past the beta stage). I thought that knowing what questions to ask and looking at it as “this person wants to make the book the best it…
Merging

Apr 25, 2025

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NicoleHerronWrites

in anxiety, author, blogging, hiding, introvert, self promotion, social anxiety, subscribers, writing

You may or may not have noticed a slight change on NicoleHerronWrites.com the last couple of days. I’ve decided it’s time to merge my two blogs into one. I’ve been trying to maintain both for a while now and with writing taking up more of my time and trying to get my author presence to…
Not what I had in mind

Mar 28, 2025

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Niki Herron

in anxiety, cognitive distortions, friendship, hiding, introvert, journaling, Lent2025, marriage, social anxiety, vulnerability

I have been in Milwaukee for almost an entire week now. The annual gaming convention that my husband attends moved to a new venue and we came early. The convention started on Wednesday. Throughout the week I’ve walked more miles than I can keep track of and done quite a bit of drinking. I even…