Tag: vulnerability

Author Con

Jul 22, 2025

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NicoleHerronWrites

in anxiety, author, exposure therapy, family, fiction, friendship, hiding, imposter syndrome, INFJ, introvert, intuition, journaling, lessons, mental health, planning, self promotion, social anxiety, social media, socializing, writing

Saturday I attended a local author convention. We have a friend we’ve known for almost thirty years that has been writing books for awhile now and had posted that she would be there. I thought it might be a good idea to get an idea of what it might be like from an author’s perspective.…
Grilled cheese and anxiety soup

Jul 15, 2025

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Niki Herron

in anxiety, cognitive distortions, exposure therapy, hiding, imposter syndrome, INFJ, introvert, journaling, lessons, mental health, motivation, parenting, people-pleasing, perfectionism, personality, social anxiety, socializing

My husband has friends that are extroverts, so he gets invited to things from time to time. He notified me on Friday that he had been invited to an annual Girled Cheese party (long story on the unique name) for the next day. The idea behind the party is that everyone brings a unique grilled…
How should I launch?

Jul 9, 2025

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NicoleHerronWrites

in anxiety, author, Book Launch, characters, church, cognitive distortions, Cosmic Smash Book, creativity, Faith, hiding, imposter syndrome, journaling, mental health, perfectionism, planning, self promotion, social anxiety, TEP3, triggers, vulnerability, writing

I’ve had a few people ask me when my book will be released and I have given vague answers because I haven’t picked a specific date, so yesterday in the coaching call I asked Sage how I should go about choosing one. Which became much more emotional than I expected. It’s hard enough to think…
Discomfort

Jul 2, 2025

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Niki Herron

in anxiety, author, Beta Readers, blogging, cognitive distortions, exposure therapy, family, friendship, Growth, hiding, imposter syndrome, journaling, lessons, mental health, people-pleasing, perfectionism, personality, shame, social anxiety, social media, TEP3, theatre, triggers, vulnerability

It’s no secret that being seen scares me. I’ve tried my best to be open and honest about it (in as quiet a way as possible) because it makes things a tiny bit easier. When I name my fear, it gives it less power. So that’s what I’m doing today. Naming the fear. Yesterday was…
Mindset Matters

Jun 13, 2025

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NicoleHerronWrites

in anxiety, author, cognitive distortions, creativity, Deadlines, editor, fiction, grounding techniques, imposter syndrome, journaling, motivation, perfectionism, planning, routine, TEP3, triggers, vulnerability, writing

I went almost a whole week without getting any work done on my book. I knew when the week began that it would be like this, yet I still feel guilty. That darn guilt gene that’s been passed down to all of my family! But instead of letting that guilt block all progress for the…
Summer 2025 begins

May 27, 2025

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Niki Herron

in anxiety, author, Beta Readers, cognitive distortions, Cosmic Smash Book, Feedback, fiction, grounding techniques, hiding, imposter syndrome, journaling, mental health, people-pleasing, perfectionism, routine, shame, social anxiety, TEP3, triggers, vulnerability, writing

I’m doing better about asking for help and not adjusting my own schedule to accommodate others. Monkey has band T/W/Th this week until noon. I asked my mother-in-law to handle pick up so that I can be at my office working. This is progress, believe it or not! I managed to get the first three…
Who Am I?

May 21, 2025

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NicoleHerronWrites

in anxiety, author, cognitive distortions, defective, Growth, imposter syndrome, journaling, mental health, people-pleasing, perfectionism, shame, social anxiety, TEP3, triggers, vulnerability, writing

So much of writing involves mindset. I think everyone has this idea in their heads that authors simply get an idea, write it down, and put it out in the world. But mindset gets in the way at every step. Yesterday’s coaching session revealed a lot of self-doubt. I’m constantly looking for validation from others…
Feedback + Anxiety

May 14, 2025

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NicoleHerronWrites

in anxiety, author, Beta Readers, cognitive distortions, Feedback, fiction, hiding, imposter syndrome, journaling, mental health, people-pleasing, perfectionism, planning, social anxiety, TEP3, triggers, vulnerability, Writer’s Journey, writing

I thought I was better prepared for receiving feedback from my beta readers than I was in 2021 when I had written my first novel (that never got past the beta stage). I thought that knowing what questions to ask and looking at it as “this person wants to make the book the best it…
Author Presence

May 7, 2025

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NicoleHerronWrites

in anxiety, author, cognitive distortions, creativity, family, Feedback, fiction, imposter syndrome, introvert, journaling, mental health, people-pleasing, perfectionism, personality, self promotion, shame, social anxiety, social media, vulnerability, writing

It’s not enough to write a book, you’ve got to put yourself out there, too.