Tag: people-pleasing

What’s Next?

Jan 13, 2026

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NicoleHerronWrites

in aging, anxiety, author, BOLD, discovery, exposure therapy, family, journaling, mental health, mother worry, parenting, people-pleasing, planning, self-care, social anxiety, volunteering

I’m learning to choose me. The last year and a half have taught me that choosing me lets me willingly choose others.
Tattoo Lessons

Jan 9, 2026

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NicoleHerronWrites

in anxiety, cognitive distortions, defective, discovery, family, grounding techniques, Growth, health anxiety, hiding, journaling, lessons, mental health, people-pleasing, personality, self-care, social anxiety, surgery

Getting my first tattoo held benefits I hadn’t expected, but I’m so glad to discover.
Word of the Year: BOLD

Jan 7, 2026

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NicoleHerronWrites

in anxiety, BOLD, friendship, grief, journaling, mental health, mindfulness, people-pleasing, self-care, social anxiety

I’m stepping into 2026 with BOLD authenticity and can’t wait to see what’s next.
Feeling Buried

Oct 28, 2025

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Niki Herron

in aging, anxiety, cognitive distortions, depression, family, health anxiety, journaling, mental health, mother worry, parenting, people-pleasing, perfectionism, personality, shame, social anxiety

Life has a tendency to just keep life-ing. I can start to feel on top of things, only to be smacked down by the unexpected. Monkey had a very specific idea in their head about what they wanted to be for Halloween (yes, my teen is very much still into dress up). We went to…
Showcase Recap

Sep 29, 2025

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NicoleHerronWrites

in anxiety, author, cognitive distortions, creativity, Debut, defective, exposure therapy, Growth, journaling, lessons, mental health, people-pleasing, perfectionism, planning, sale, self promotion, social anxiety, triggers, vulnerability, Writer’s Journey, writing, Writing Challenges/Events

Saturday, I shared a table at the Garland public library’s author showcase. I prepped/planned for it for more than a week, ordering goodies at the last minute and even making some of my own. This is what I brought: Even with only one book under my belt, my half of the table was packed with…
Discomfort

Jul 2, 2025

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Niki Herron

in anxiety, author, Beta Readers, blogging, cognitive distortions, exposure therapy, family, friendship, Growth, hiding, imposter syndrome, journaling, lessons, mental health, people-pleasing, perfectionism, personality, shame, social anxiety, social media, TEP3, theatre, triggers, vulnerability

It’s no secret that being seen scares me. I’ve tried my best to be open and honest about it (in as quiet a way as possible) because it makes things a tiny bit easier. When I name my fear, it gives it less power. So that’s what I’m doing today. Naming the fear. Yesterday was…
Trust

Jun 5, 2025

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NicoleHerronWrites

in aging, anxiety, cognitive distortions, Cosmic Smash Book, creativity, discovery, Growth, journaling, mental health, parenting, people-pleasing, perfectionism, social anxiety, Tarot, TEP3, triggers, Trust

A theme has been coming up for me throughout the last month. The theme of Trust. Not of trusting others, but of trusting myself. That seems to be a big hurdle for me to overcome. I’m constantly seeking external validation. I trust the opinions and knowledge of others before I trust myself. I question myself…
Summer 2025 begins

May 27, 2025

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Niki Herron

in anxiety, author, Beta Readers, cognitive distortions, Cosmic Smash Book, Feedback, fiction, grounding techniques, hiding, imposter syndrome, journaling, mental health, people-pleasing, perfectionism, routine, shame, social anxiety, TEP3, triggers, vulnerability, writing

I’m doing better about asking for help and not adjusting my own schedule to accommodate others. Monkey has band T/W/Th this week until noon. I asked my mother-in-law to handle pick up so that I can be at my office working. This is progress, believe it or not! I managed to get the first three…
Who Am I?

May 21, 2025

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NicoleHerronWrites

in anxiety, author, cognitive distortions, defective, Growth, imposter syndrome, journaling, mental health, people-pleasing, perfectionism, shame, social anxiety, TEP3, triggers, vulnerability, writing

So much of writing involves mindset. I think everyone has this idea in their heads that authors simply get an idea, write it down, and put it out in the world. But mindset gets in the way at every step. Yesterday’s coaching session revealed a lot of self-doubt. I’m constantly looking for validation from others…
Feedback + Anxiety

May 14, 2025

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NicoleHerronWrites

in anxiety, author, Beta Readers, cognitive distortions, Feedback, fiction, hiding, imposter syndrome, journaling, mental health, people-pleasing, perfectionism, planning, social anxiety, TEP3, triggers, vulnerability, Writer’s Journey, writing

I thought I was better prepared for receiving feedback from my beta readers than I was in 2021 when I had written my first novel (that never got past the beta stage). I thought that knowing what questions to ask and looking at it as “this person wants to make the book the best it…