Tag: triggers

Vacation over

Nov 17, 2025

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NicoleHerronWrites

in anxiety, BOLD, cognitive distortions, exposure therapy, family, Growth, journaling, lessons, mental health, social anxiety, time anxiety, travel anxiety, triggers, Vegas

Now that I’m back home and looking back on my trip with my sister, I am reflecting on how it all went. My husband asked me in the car on the way back home and I said, “It was great. It would have been different if I was with someone other than my sister, but…
Showcase Recap

Sep 29, 2025

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NicoleHerronWrites

in anxiety, author, cognitive distortions, creativity, Debut, defective, exposure therapy, Growth, journaling, lessons, mental health, people-pleasing, perfectionism, planning, sale, self promotion, social anxiety, triggers, vulnerability, Writer’s Journey, writing, Writing Challenges/Events

Saturday, I shared a table at the Garland public library’s author showcase. I prepped/planned for it for more than a week, ordering goodies at the last minute and even making some of my own. This is what I brought: Even with only one book under my belt, my half of the table was packed with…
Worst/Best Job Ever

Sep 26, 2025

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Niki Herron

in aging, anxiety, depression, family, journaling, lonliness, mental health, mother worry, parenting, social anxiety, triggers

I understand that a parent’s job is to help their child become independent. They need to be able to go out into the world and function all on their own. You know you’ve done a good job when they leave you, and break your heart. I realized the last few years that I’d done a…
How should I launch?

Jul 9, 2025

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NicoleHerronWrites

in anxiety, author, Book Launch, characters, church, cognitive distortions, Cosmic Smash Book, creativity, Faith, hiding, imposter syndrome, journaling, mental health, perfectionism, planning, self promotion, social anxiety, TEP3, triggers, vulnerability, writing

I’ve had a few people ask me when my book will be released and I have given vague answers because I haven’t picked a specific date, so yesterday in the coaching call I asked Sage how I should go about choosing one. Which became much more emotional than I expected. It’s hard enough to think…
Discomfort

Jul 2, 2025

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Niki Herron

in anxiety, author, Beta Readers, blogging, cognitive distortions, exposure therapy, family, friendship, Growth, hiding, imposter syndrome, journaling, lessons, mental health, people-pleasing, perfectionism, personality, shame, social anxiety, social media, TEP3, theatre, triggers, vulnerability

It’s no secret that being seen scares me. I’ve tried my best to be open and honest about it (in as quiet a way as possible) because it makes things a tiny bit easier. When I name my fear, it gives it less power. So that’s what I’m doing today. Naming the fear. Yesterday was…
Mindset Matters

Jun 13, 2025

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NicoleHerronWrites

in anxiety, author, cognitive distortions, creativity, Deadlines, editor, fiction, grounding techniques, imposter syndrome, journaling, motivation, perfectionism, planning, routine, TEP3, triggers, vulnerability, writing

I went almost a whole week without getting any work done on my book. I knew when the week began that it would be like this, yet I still feel guilty. That darn guilt gene that’s been passed down to all of my family! But instead of letting that guilt block all progress for the…
Trust

Jun 5, 2025

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NicoleHerronWrites

in aging, anxiety, cognitive distortions, Cosmic Smash Book, creativity, discovery, Growth, journaling, mental health, parenting, people-pleasing, perfectionism, social anxiety, Tarot, TEP3, triggers, Trust

A theme has been coming up for me throughout the last month. The theme of Trust. Not of trusting others, but of trusting myself. That seems to be a big hurdle for me to overcome. I’m constantly seeking external validation. I trust the opinions and knowledge of others before I trust myself. I question myself…
Summer 2025 begins

May 27, 2025

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Niki Herron

in anxiety, author, Beta Readers, cognitive distortions, Cosmic Smash Book, Feedback, fiction, grounding techniques, hiding, imposter syndrome, journaling, mental health, people-pleasing, perfectionism, routine, shame, social anxiety, TEP3, triggers, vulnerability, writing

I’m doing better about asking for help and not adjusting my own schedule to accommodate others. Monkey has band T/W/Th this week until noon. I asked my mother-in-law to handle pick up so that I can be at my office working. This is progress, believe it or not! I managed to get the first three…
Who Am I?

May 21, 2025

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NicoleHerronWrites

in anxiety, author, cognitive distortions, defective, Growth, imposter syndrome, journaling, mental health, people-pleasing, perfectionism, shame, social anxiety, TEP3, triggers, vulnerability, writing

So much of writing involves mindset. I think everyone has this idea in their heads that authors simply get an idea, write it down, and put it out in the world. But mindset gets in the way at every step. Yesterday’s coaching session revealed a lot of self-doubt. I’m constantly looking for validation from others…
Feedback + Anxiety

May 14, 2025

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NicoleHerronWrites

in anxiety, author, Beta Readers, cognitive distortions, Feedback, fiction, hiding, imposter syndrome, journaling, mental health, people-pleasing, perfectionism, planning, social anxiety, TEP3, triggers, vulnerability, Writer’s Journey, writing

I thought I was better prepared for receiving feedback from my beta readers than I was in 2021 when I had written my first novel (that never got past the beta stage). I thought that knowing what questions to ask and looking at it as “this person wants to make the book the best it…