Category: people-pleasing

Discomfort

Jul 2, 2025

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Niki Herron

in anxiety, author, Beta Readers, blogging, cognitive distortions, exposure therapy, family, friendship, Growth, hiding, imposter syndrome, journaling, lessons, mental health, people-pleasing, perfectionism, personality, shame, social anxiety, social media, TEP3, theatre, triggers, vulnerability

It’s no secret that being seen scares me. I’ve tried my best to be open and honest about it (in as quiet a way as possible) because it makes things a tiny bit easier. When I name my fear, it gives it less power. So that’s what I’m doing today. Naming the fear. Yesterday was…
Trust

Jun 5, 2025

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NicoleHerronWrites

in aging, anxiety, cognitive distortions, Cosmic Smash Book, creativity, discovery, Growth, journaling, mental health, parenting, people-pleasing, perfectionism, social anxiety, Tarot, TEP3, triggers, Trust

A theme has been coming up for me throughout the last month. The theme of Trust. Not of trusting others, but of trusting myself. That seems to be a big hurdle for me to overcome. I’m constantly seeking external validation. I trust the opinions and knowledge of others before I trust myself. I question myself…
Summer 2025 begins

May 27, 2025

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Niki Herron

in anxiety, author, Beta Readers, cognitive distortions, Cosmic Smash Book, Feedback, fiction, grounding techniques, hiding, imposter syndrome, journaling, mental health, people-pleasing, perfectionism, routine, shame, social anxiety, TEP3, triggers, vulnerability, writing

I’m doing better about asking for help and not adjusting my own schedule to accommodate others. Monkey has band T/W/Th this week until noon. I asked my mother-in-law to handle pick up so that I can be at my office working. This is progress, believe it or not! I managed to get the first three…
Who Am I?

May 21, 2025

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NicoleHerronWrites

in anxiety, author, cognitive distortions, defective, Growth, imposter syndrome, journaling, mental health, people-pleasing, perfectionism, shame, social anxiety, TEP3, triggers, vulnerability, writing

So much of writing involves mindset. I think everyone has this idea in their heads that authors simply get an idea, write it down, and put it out in the world. But mindset gets in the way at every step. Yesterday’s coaching session revealed a lot of self-doubt. I’m constantly looking for validation from others…
Feedback + Anxiety

May 14, 2025

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NicoleHerronWrites

in anxiety, author, Beta Readers, cognitive distortions, Feedback, fiction, hiding, imposter syndrome, journaling, mental health, people-pleasing, perfectionism, planning, social anxiety, TEP3, triggers, vulnerability, Writer’s Journey, writing

I thought I was better prepared for receiving feedback from my beta readers than I was in 2021 when I had written my first novel (that never got past the beta stage). I thought that knowing what questions to ask and looking at it as “this person wants to make the book the best it…
Author Presence

May 7, 2025

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NicoleHerronWrites

in anxiety, author, cognitive distortions, creativity, family, Feedback, fiction, imposter syndrome, introvert, journaling, mental health, people-pleasing, perfectionism, personality, self promotion, shame, social anxiety, social media, vulnerability, writing

It’s not enough to write a book, you’ve got to put yourself out there, too.
Anxiety is expensive…

May 5, 2025

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Niki Herron

in anxiety, cognitive distortions, introvert, journaling, mental health, people-pleasing, phone anxiety, shame, shopping anxiety, social anxiety, vulnerability

Anxiety comes with a multitude of costs. It can cost time, relationships, dreams, jobs, and even money. In March I got myself a new pair of glasses. I bought them online to avoid going into a store. When they arrived, I didn’t love them as much as I thought I would, but I did love…
Lent – Week 2

Mar 20, 2025

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Niki Herron

in anxiety, cognitive distortions, exposure therapy, hiding, hope, INFJ, introvert, journaling, Lent2025, people-pleasing, perfectionism, personality, phone anxiety, shame, social anxiety, vulnerability

I’m a bit late with this post. It’s Spring Break for my kids, so my schedule has been extremely wonky. All of the time I spent at my office has been focused on getting Draft 2 of my book done. But I finally did it yesterday!!! Woohoo! I’m taking a short break from working on…
Cosmic Smashbook – Emerging

Mar 5, 2025

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Niki Herron

in anxiety, cognitive distortions, defective, hope, intuition, journaling, people-pleasing, perfectionism, personality, shame, social anxiety, vulnerability

I believe I’ve mentioned before that I was introduced to Cosmic Smashbooking (CSB) by Sage Adderly. Basically, it’s an intuitive process of creativity that is surprisingly revealing. I’ve used it to work through personal issues and also to help me get to know the characters in my book better. It’s been an amazing experience and…
On the road to better health

Feb 13, 2025

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Niki Herron

in anxiety, chronic illness, defective, exercise, Faith, family, friendship, health anxiety, introvert, intuition, journaling, lessons, people-pleasing, perfectionism, shame, social anxiety, Tarot

I’m taking a 5 day class with Sage Adderly called “Chaos is Canceled.” Each day we’ve been taking a step towards calming the chaos and making a plan for our goals. I have been struggling with what goal to plan for. I’ve had the goal of writing my book for some time, but I actually…